Character Speaks Volumes

I had a mommy moment yesterday. My oldest son came to me upset that someone at school had been teasing and using profane language towards him for close to a month. An entire month??? My first instinct was to ask why he waited so long and remind him that I and his grandfather regularly ask if anyone is bothering him in any way. But I didn't. I showed the care and compassion that Mommy's are supposed to. Even though the Momma Bear in me wanted to go to the school and give this little boy that was bothering my first born a piece of my mind.


As soon as I got to work, I sent his teacher an email to make sure she was aware of the problem and see what needed to be done. In today's day and age, you can't be too lackadaisical when it comes to bullying among our kids. She assured me she would keep an eye on the boys and move them from sitting next to each other. I was satisfied. Until about 3:15 when my baby calls me almost in tears. The little boy had said something very ugly to him during another class. My son wrote it down (as soon as he said that I knew what was coming) and was going to show it to the teacher after class. At some point the teacher saw the paper and my son got in trouble.


I immediately called and left a message requesting a conference so I could get both sides of the story. I'm not that parent that swears my child is the perfect angel because kids will be kids. However, I know my child, his personality and the words on the paper are not the words that he'd use. As soon as I explained the situation to his teacher, she agreed that she couldn't believe he would use that type of language (or be that aggressive) and she would talk with both boys more but not escalate the write up (it hadn't been turned into the office yet).


I share this to say we have to be involved with our children's lives. We have to ask questions and expect answers. We have to have an open door policy so they feel comfortable coming to us and sharing what is going on in their lives. We have to be in tune with their moods and changes in behavior. If I hadn't been proactive and sent his teacher an email that morning, this situation could have turned out very differently.


As adults, we have to remember and instill in our children that their character speaks volumes to others about who they are and what they are capable of doing. While it is not always "cool" to be smart, it pays off volumes in the long run.


Be Blessed Divas and remember to be a blessing to others!!!


~Michelle

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